by Diana Barnes, Psy.D
THE CULTURE OF MOTHERHOOD
Societal myths say that pregnancy and birth are a time of optimal physical and emotional well-being. But it’s an extremely vulnerable time because stress is high and resilience is low. Ideas about motherhood begin years before baby’s conception, but your individual history and current circumstances will shape your experience. Each year about one million women will suffer with a mood or anxiety disorder around childbearing. If you’re worried about postpartum depression, you’re not alone. If you get depression, you’re not to blame.
WHAT IS THE MATERNAL INSTINCT?
The desire to protect and nurture is instinctive. But it’ll take time to develop a relationship with your baby so you recognize his/her needs. Be patient with yourself as you and baby grow to know each other.
KNOW THE SIGNS
Perinatal depression or postpartum depression (PPD) looks different than you expect — more like excessive worry and anxiety, than depression. You might have persistent thoughts or images that disturb you. You may feel foggy, confused and forgetful, unable to sleep even when baby does. It might feel like you are going through the motions or are afraid to be alone because you won’t know what to do if the baby cries. You might even secretly wish you never had a baby, and think it was a terrible mistake. THIS IS THE LANGUAGE OF POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION. If you worry whether you’ll have PPD, ask for help in advance, because depression is TREATABLE!
WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?
Perinatal depression is often preventable. Ask your doctor to screen you throughout your pregnancy and postpartum period. Good nutrition, regular exercise, and time for you are critical to well-being. Line up friends and family for postpartum help. It’ll allow you to recover and care for your baby. Postpartum depression is the most common complication of pregnancy and the most treatable with therapy, support, and medication, when indicated. Keep asking for help until you find someone who will listen!
This could be the happiest time in your life. If you get help quickly, it will be, and your family will yield the rewards.
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Published: October 10, 2015 | Reviewed by: Kim Walls, Natural Products Expert | Last reviewed: October, 2015